Condition guide
Social Anxiety
Social anxiety disorder involves an intense, persistent fear of social or performance situations where you might be watched, judged, or embarrassed. It’s more than shyness — it’s a significant fear response that can lead to avoiding everyday situations like meetings, parties, phone calls, or even casual conversations, and it can meaningfully limit work, study, and relationships.
Social anxiety is one of the most common anxiety conditions and responds well to treatment. This page covers what it looks like, what tends to cause it, and how it’s treated.
Recognising it
What are the symptoms of social anxiety?
Emotional & cognitive symptoms
- Intense fear of being judged, embarrassed, or humiliated in front of others
- Excessive worry before, during, and after social situations
- Assuming others are noticing or judging you negatively
- Fear of visible signs of anxiety, like blushing or shaking, being noticed by others
Physical symptoms
- Racing heart, sweating, trembling, or blushing in social situations
- Nausea or stomach discomfort
- A blank mind or difficulty speaking
Behavioural symptoms
- Avoiding social or performance situations altogether
- Enduring situations with significant distress
- Over-preparing for or over-analysing social interactions afterward
- Using alcohol or other substances to cope with social situations
Social anxiety can be specific to certain situations (like public speaking) or more generalised, affecting a wide range of everyday social interactions.
Understanding why
What causes social anxiety?
There's rarely a single cause — it tends to develop from a combination of factors.
- Biological factors
- Genetics and temperament, including a naturally heightened sensitivity to social evaluation.
- Learned experiences
- Bullying, humiliation, or critical social experiences, particularly earlier in life.
- Family patterns
- Growing up with a parent who modelled social anxiety or was highly critical of social performance.
- Life transitions
- Social anxiety often intensifies during periods requiring more social exposure, like starting a new job or school.
As with most anxiety conditions, it typically develops from a combination of biological sensitivity and learned experience, rather than a single cause.
Getting better
How is social anxiety treated?
Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
Widely considered a first-line, highly effective treatment for social anxiety, addressing both the underlying beliefs and the anxiety response itself.
Exposure therapy
Gradually and safely practising feared social situations, which is one of the most effective components of treatment.
Social skills work
For some people, building specific skills and confidence in social interaction is a useful complement to addressing the underlying anxiety.
Acceptance & commitment therapy (ACT)
Building tolerance for the discomfort of social situations while re-engaging with valued activities and relationships.
Social anxiety tends to respond particularly well to structured, exposure-based treatment, and many people see meaningful improvement.
Next step
When should I see a psychologist about social anxiety?
It’s worth reaching out if you’ve noticed:
- Persistent, intense fear of social or performance situations that’s hard to control
- Avoiding situations — work meetings, social events, phone calls — because of this fear
- Physical symptoms (blushing, shaking, racing heart) in social settings that cause distress
- Social anxiety affecting your career, education, or relationships
- Using alcohol or other substances to get through social situations
A GP can help you access a Mental Health Care Plan under Medicare's Better Access initiative, which provides rebates for a set number of psychology sessions per year.
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Common questions
Frequently asked questions
What’s the difference between shyness and social anxiety?
Shyness is a common personality trait involving some discomfort in social situations, but it doesn’t typically cause significant distress or avoidance. Social anxiety disorder involves an intense fear response that meaningfully limits daily functioning, work, or relationships.
Can social anxiety go away on its own?
Social anxiety tends to persist, and often worsens, without treatment, as avoidance reinforces the underlying fear over time. Structured treatment, particularly CBT with exposure, has strong evidence for meaningfully reducing symptoms.
Is social anxiety the same as introversion?
No. Introversion is a personality preference for lower-stimulation environments and doesn’t involve fear or distress. Social anxiety involves genuine fear of judgment or embarrassment, which is a different experience from simply preferring quieter social settings.
How long does treatment for social anxiety take?
This varies by individual and severity, but many structured CBT programs for social anxiety run over a course of weekly sessions, often showing meaningful improvement within a number of months.
Do I need a GP referral to see a psychologist for social anxiety?
No — you can see a psychologist directly. A GP referral is only required if you want to access a Medicare rebate through a Mental Health Care Plan.
Is online therapy effective for social anxiety?
Telehealth can be an effective and accessible option for social anxiety treatment, including exposure-based approaches, though some people prefer transitioning to in-person sessions as part of their exposure practice.
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